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- 1. Don’t take dating too seriously
1. Don’t take dating too seriously
Why are you dating? Of course you want to meet your partner, so when you have a date make it a fun experience for both of you. Don’t be too formal or too serious, loosen up a bit and enjoy your conversation. Discuss topics that may be interesting to your new friend, it could be a good start for a long-lasting relationship.
2. Don’t date out of desperation
Dating isn’t a game, but a possible start of a new relationship. Being involved to someone out of desperation can bring more harm than good. I’m saying this because a lot of singles are sometimes too desperate to at least get a date.
3. Do not date to make someone jealous
This is definitely not fair, you should not use other people to make others jealous because you would not like being in the same position. I believe you are not a kid nor a ex lover trying to get attention.
4. Practice caution on multiple dating
Well, dating more than one woman or man could be definitely thrilling and fun however it can also be very exhausting. Imagine yourself responding to numerous messages from different persons and you are flirting with all of them. You need to rest after a long day at work, yet you have to meet the other person. Or say, you are having a good time with one person and you receive a message from another one wanting to see you. That can be very messy ans stressy! So if you are planning multiple datings, think again.
5. Be yourself
This is easier said than done but certainly the most effective way to show true intention. Just being yourself can be seducing for your date. Being pretentious are easy to detect and you do not want to be that person. Just be yourself, if the person do not like you, then so be it.
6. Do not date to play games
When you are on a date, be sincere and true. Only ask someone or accept an invitation for a date when you are truly into it and not for playing games. Hurting someones feelings and expectations is unacceptable.
7. Lending money to your date
Lending money on your date can be very unusual but in case it happen make sure to think it over. There is nothing wrong in lending money especially if you like the person. But it is important that you have already built that trust and connection before letting anyone get money from you so you can be sure he or she can pay and do not ruin your relationship.
8. Enjoy dating not just for sex
Never rush having sex with someone you just dated. This would allow you to learn more and build an intimate connection with the person. It should not be the sex that you liked but the person itself. So if you take it easy it can be start of a good relationship.
9. Get out and expose yourself
We are in an era where people are connected virtually all over the world. You can even date someone just by video chatting and communicating in social media. But nothing beats the physical face-to-face dating where you can not filter eye contact, discussion, emotion and the fun. It can be all real.
10. Take a break
Sometimes, dating (if you did not found the right person yet) can be tiring, taking a little break is a good option to consider. Pushing yourself on a date is more miserable than not having a date. Use this break to rediscover yourself again, you can explore new thoughts and catching up with your friends.
11. Become familiar with yourself
Before you actually learn someone else’s preference, passion, likes and dislikes, it is best that you know yourself more and it helps you to be more open and honest with your date. Knowing what you like and not like can avoid future issues and negative arguments.
12. Avoid negative persons
Life is already full of negative stuff and you do not need additional negativity in life. Remember that surrounding yourself with happy people can bring you happiness. Same if you meet with someone who has positive outlook in life, it will give you a sense of purpose and you both can attract more positivity.
13. Engaging into telephone or online sex
There is nothing wrong in engaging yourself to virtual dating on the phone or even having sex on the phone. However, the pleasure and intimacy is not as intense as having it in real life. I am not saying it is stupid but why stick to telephone chats when you can go out and experience a real date. Sex on the other hand will just come out naturally when you both feel the urge of having it.
14. Acknowledge the occurrence of dubious patterns
Be observant when dating especially if you just met the person. You being attentive to pattern that are dubious and annoying can save both of you a future failed relationship. Call him or her attention if you have found one action that is inappropriate and you do not like, make the other person aware.
15. Have a life
Never neglect yourself when you are in a relationship. Do not be so reliant with the other person. Show him or her that you are independent and can do things on your own. Make them see that you have your own priorities, dreams and you have your own life to manage.
16. Criticizing your date
If you focus too much on your partners behaviour and criticise, you are setting yourself up for a broken relationship. Just go with the flow. Whatever the person does that makes you happy is always worth the dedication.
17. Control your refreshments
Drinking alcohol while on a date is not a sin. But remember to keep it under control. Drinking too much can lead to a disaster when you find yourself already out of control. So, if you have a tendency to over-drink, then you should avoid it altogether.
18. Out of your league
If you have a tendency to feel that you are not enough or if your date is someone who feel inadequate, then it is time to consider or give it a chance. Allow to rediscover yourself, in that way you will be more confident to find a partner with whom you truly feel good around.
19. Determine what you truly want out of dating
Prevent wasting your time or someone else’s time. How to do that is very simple, just determine what you truly want out of your date. Ask yourself, do I need a new relationship? Am I just having a good time? Is this flirting or something else? Make sure that you are clear with your intention if you want to have a good relationship with the person.
20. Prepare yourself for the date
If you are serious about it you should be on your best. Preparing yourself is a good way to start. It gives you a boost of confidence and would allow you to truly enjoy the experience. If you feel confident expect a positive conversation with your date.
Smiling is very powerful and priceless. You do not have to spend a penny on a smile, it is a human thing! So smile! It will encourage a far more positive environment between you as well as your potential partner. Smiling can result in a more fun conversation and will lead both of you to enjoy the date.
22. Your posture
Have an upright body posture and look into the eyes. This shows that you are paying attention to your date.
Shaving is something you want to consider. For men, using a well shaved face would win over nearly all women, since women view it as an indicator of cleanliness. For woman (and man) the most important is that you feel good in your body.
24. Being aware of your voice
Keep your voice calm, it shows respect and maturity. If you are someone who sounds aggressive, then you will scare your date or make it unpleasant. Imagine your date rejecting because you sounded scary and pushy.
25. Your smell
Use a good perfume or a good smelling cologne to make an impression on your date. In addition to that, do not forget your deodorant. It would be a unpleasant to mix up your sweat and your perfume.
26. Taboo subjects
Bringing up pleasant topics in your conversation is one of the things you have to be mindful, remember to avoid discussing taboo because it may not encourage a healthy and relaxing environment. Concentrate on more lighter topics, so you and your date can enjoy and have fun from your conversation.
27. Avoid a terrible mood
Sleeping too little has a significant effect on mood so make sure you get enough sleep before going on a date. Negative disposition should be avoided regardless of the reason. If you think you are not ready then do not go for it. It is always best to focus on the positive so your date would be a date to remember. One more thing, make sure that you are on time, being late on a date makes a bad impression.
28. Call him or her by their names
This is very basic, make sure that you use your date’s name in the conversation. I would suggest not calling him or her as ma’am or sir or whatever annoying title you would have in mind. Make it personalize so you get a better feel of the person.
29. Use different perfumes or colognes
Variety is a spice of life and using different perfume or cologne scent whenever you go on a date is just one of them. It is one of the good ways to impress your date. Well it’s a big turn on to smell really good on a date, but using a different one from time to time is something more.
30. Stay fit
Staying fit increases confidence and a confident person attracts. Dating is exciting but having that leverage of being confident and fit will keep you being awesome and attractive.
31. You are seriously interested in your future
When the person you are dating sensed that you care about your future it gives them that impression that you are someone who can also be seriously interested in them. Make sure that you treat her or him as somebody who could potentially be a long term partner if you truly like them.
32. Be someone your date can introduce to her parents
If you are seriously interested to the person you are dating, then make sure you give the impression that you are someone worth introducing to his or her parents. Be presentable by dressing and behaving correctly. It does not mean that you have to be too formal. You can be yourself as much as you want but if you like the person and you want to meet the parents then I bet you want to follow this tip.
33. Never interrupt
Interrupting someone while they are talking is a bad idea and impolite. It is annoying to be interrupted, so why would you do that? Interrupting can be a sign of disrespect so you have to be cautious. Let him or her finish what they are saying so when its your time to talk you will get all the attention you need.
34. Do not be a whiner
No one wants to date someone who complains about a lot of things. It is annoying to deal with a person who always feel negative and consider themselves punished by society. Dating is a way of making friends or eventually a way of finding a long term relationship, however if you are a whiner, your date will not have that interest to have another date with you as that would be depressive.
35. Don’t be a crybaby
A crybaby is a person who always talks about his or her past problems, mistakes, and relationship failures. This is a big no no if you are meeting with someone. You are having that date to enjoy and have fun not to talk about things that are not happy. If you think you are not ready then do not push yourself into dating.
36. Let your date talk
If you would like you and your date to truly have a good time, then let them speak and appreciate the conversation. Your date would appreciate if you let them share their own opinions and point of views. One of the secrets for a great conversation is asking the right questions and open-ended questions.
37. Start with being a friendly date
Being friend with your date is a good idea especially if you have been dating for awhile. If you can not commit into something more, then being a friend is the best thing. Be a good listener and be honest, it is the best foundation for a friendship.
Many of us are afraid of dating because we fear about being hurt and broken. That is why choosing a person you can trust will probably spare you of this experience. Trust is an essential element in every relationship.
39. Touching your date
Be careful in touching your date. Touching can be interpreted negatively and may offend the other person. Only touch a girl when she is already comfortable with you after you have been dating for awhile.
40. Mysterious is sexy
There are some people who loves mystery especially for a potential lover. And people who are mysterious allows you to discover them little by little as part of knowing each other. Mystery gives excitement to both of you. You do not what to uncover everything in one date so you leave the other person wanting to know you more.
41. Learn how to read palms
This may not be applicable to everyone but there is really no harm in trying. A person who is a hand reader has proven fact of getting that opportunity to be seen interesting by the other person and you have that touching experience.
42. Be polite but do not overdo it
Opening a door for your date is a polite move but do not overdo it. Remember that you are in an era where women are already empowered and independent. They can do things on their own and that makes them feel equal to the opposite sex.
43. Business or private cards
If you expect your date to remember or contact you again, then you should bring with you your business or private cards. Although it gives distinctive impression, you should consider what would be the best option. Another option would be adding your date in social media and start following her or him. But remember, do not overdo it because you do not want to look like a stalker.
44. Doing little things
After been seeing someone for a some time you want to make her or him feel special, you should do little things for your date. Be creative in bringing something new on your date. Flowers are of course old fashioned but still the best way to make a woman smile, however women nowadays are more practical. What is important is that you know what will make him or her happy.
45. What it actually means when your date said I love you
In case the person says he or she loves you even though you are only dating for few times, then it often means a lot of things. It may be a trap that will make you fall for a wrong person. Just be wise about it.
If you know how to party and dance then you are lucky. Having a talent to dance has some sort of leverage to impress your date. It is hot and irresistible, trust me.
47. The things you should know on the first date
Make sure you are at least aware of the person’s likes or dislikes. It can help you save headaches. It is also important to know if your date is exclusively dating you or seeing someone else without being pushy.
48. Starting or keeping a dialog going
There are plenty of ways to keep your dialog going. I mentioned open-ended questions because they are triggers of conversations. Make sure you pay attention to your date and how he or she answers the question so you can have the follow up and make the discussion more interesting to both of you.
49. Making compliments
Compliments are good to make the other person feel appreciated. Everybody love compliments, a simple appreciation of how they dress, the perfume they wear and even the simplest detail of their body is important to them. On the other hand, complimenting back makes you also feel appreciated.
50. Be successful but do not brag
Successful individuals are really admirable, so if you want to start dating, make sure you have invested time on yourself in becoming successful. You do not need to be rich but being financially stable and independent is a great turn on for women in choosing their partner. In addition to that, women nowadays are also competitive and ambitious so if you both are successful in life, then you are ready to take the next step.
51. No sex talks
Talking about sex during date could give a bad impression about your motives, which will make the other person uncomfortable. Sex is not something you need to plan, especially if you are just new dating each other. Sex should come out naturally and make both of you excited.
52. Be nice
Being nice often means lots of things, especially for a man. Nice often means appealing, normal, presentable, trustable, helpful, or friendly and plenty of women are in fact searching for the nice partner.
Do not fake yourself in being nice, always find the three version of yourself when meeting someone on a date.
53. How to proceed with your place
Have a tidy and clean place. As a matured individual, having a clean place displays independence while keeping it clean is something that appeals more to the opposite sex. If you know how to take care of your own place, then you are someone who can take good care of a home.
54. Calling her or him
Once you get the phone number of your date, avoid calling them everyday after. Getting a call from someone whom you dated once is scary, so avoid it. Talking on the phone is open to a lot of interpretations so if you have clean intention and you feel that dating the person is worth pursuing then instead of calling her or him everyday, just set another date beforehand.
55. Make memories
When you are dating someone that you really like, making great memories is very important. Make sure that you know what turns them on, what she likes, what she loves so you can think of creative ways to date her. For example, instead of going to a crowded club, bring her to places where and both you can reminisce about your childhood.
56. Internet dating is discovering
Internet is very powerful, it connects people. There is really nothing wrong in internet dating if you are comfortable with it. There are so many couples nowadays that only met through the power of internet, so I will not say that internet dating is a waste of time. If you feel that you can learn the person through regular chat, then so be it. Once you are ready to meet the person, then it would be a lot more easier to connect and converse.
57. Sharing common interest
Dating gives you the chance in knowing whether you as well as your date share a common interest. Successful relationship does not have to be a perfect match of interest. However, knowing what the other person like to do, what interest him or her, what her favorite food and the like, is something worth knowing.
58. Have fun in dating
Dating is having fun with new people. It is not a life requirement but it can bring so much fun and energy. If you have not tried dating, it does not mean you have a boring life, you just chose not to have one. But being open to the idea of meeting someone new through a date, is pretty exciting.
59. Never date if you are not over your ex partner
Do not find a rebound. If you are broken and just looking to divert your attention please do not try dating. Dating involves another individual and think how it would affect him or her knowing that you are just looking for a rebound. Use your time being single to rediscover yourself, to forgive yourself and your ex. If you want to divert your attention, try a new hobby, or do something productive that would change your life.
60. Online dating is merely one of your alternatives in reaching people
This is very common for people who are busy with their careers and life. There is nothing wrong with online dating but it should not stop there. If you are investing time chatting online, then always look forward in meeting the person one day to truly learn more about him or her.
61. You are not in a relationship yet on your date
When dating make sure that you put some limitations between you and your date. You are not getting into a relationship just yet nor getting married, you are still in the process of meeting and getting to know the person more. Never act as if you are a girlfriend or a boyfriend or else you could just scare them off, just let time nurture the relationship.
62. Know your restrictions
It is very important that you know your limitations. For example, checking on him or her every hour, or say for example asking too much personal questions, those things. Make sure that you are mindful of that boundary. Do not go beyond the boundary if it is not yet the time.
63. You are worthy
The fact that other person agreed to go on a date with you simple means you are valued. They trust you and they feel safe being with you. Do not break that trust or you will not see him or her for another date.
64. Blind dating is not necessary
Blind date is exciting and thrilling. Some people tries to go on blind dates, people they meant through common friend or some strangers from the internet. Although it is fun, it is also risky. Blind date makes you clueless about the person so you will not know any history about them. You don not want to date someone who is a maniac, a married individual or worst… So yes, blind dating is not necessary. You can choose a date that you may have already known for awhile like an officemate, an old friend or someone you met from a party.
65. It is not a requirement to like back
If your date is open about liking you and considering to push through with the next level of your relationship then do not get pressured about the thought. You are not required to like back, you are not required to reciprocate any feelings they have towards you. Continue to be nice but set the right expectations that you are not considering the person yet to be a lover.
66. Finding your type
We have our own taste with our ideal guy or girl. Maybe you have imagined already how your next boyfriend or girlfriend would actually look. You may be looking for someone who is a family person, a bookworm, a person who loves to travel, or anything you have in mind. But keep in mind that you should be open about it and dating does not guarantee that you will date someone that perfectly matches your type.
67. Do not date a person who only communicates through wording
Action is far way better than words. If you have been seeing someone and after a few dates, the person starts to become busy and would only talk to you on the phone, then start thinking. If someone is talking to you only through text or call, then call out the person’s attention and let him or her know that you want something more for the relationship to work.
68. Research your facts
Most of the time, people who are into dating always shows their best to impress. If you are dating someone who is too good to be true, then researching facts is important. You can not be tricked if you have an idea about the person.
69. Ask questions
Asking the right and sensible questions is not off limits. Be comfortable asking questions that will build more trust between you and the other person.
70. Do not overthink
Do not overthink but savor the moment and the person you are dating. If you focus too much on the person’s success, failure, and financial status, then you may end up having a wrong impression. What is important is paying attention to what you are actually discovering right in the moment. You may be more interested in knowing the person’s personality over the person’s ability to pay bills.
71. Meet new people and make new encounters
Most people who are busy at work and career will not have the bandwidth to go on a date. You may feel that your life is a routine and boring. Instead of feeling less exciting about your life, go out and meet people. Dating does not automatically mean that you are looking for something intimate but eventually just looking for new friends.
72. To enjoy dating, you need to commit
Commitment is very important when dating. If you are looking for a potential lover, then keep the consistency and creativity when dating. Invest time and attention to the person.
73. Do not expect too much from the person
Too much expectations can lead to disappointment. Better not to expect to much from someone if you feel that you are not committed to do the same. It is way more practical to expect less and be surprised along the way.
74. Learning your date
Knowing your date more deeper is normal. If you are interested to pursue dating the person, then start learning more about them. Try to explore their interest, their goals, and plans in life. Discover what you have in common and your differences so you are prepared about it.
75. Knowing the person takes time
Do not rush dating. Dating is a fun getting to know you experience and should not be another sort of stress and tedious activity. You should be enjoying every bit of the experience and when the perfect time comes.
76. Never force yourself to like him or her
Forcing yourself to like someone that you are dating is simply not a good idea. Feelings toward to someone is something you do not wish to rush and force. It should come naturally. For example, if the person is very nice and obviously likes you so much, it does not mean that you are obligated to reciprocate the attention and feelings.
77. Lazy communication
Avoid people who communicate only through text, email or in social media. If you are looking for romance, then invest your attention to people who spends time seeing you and exerting effort to win you.
78. Intimate satisfaction
When you are stepping further into the relationship, asking yourself if the person is giving you the satisfaction you need in your relationship. It is like setting expectations because of you know beforehand what they can give, you will not expect too much from the person and it is less complicated.
79. Be careful in telling stories about your past relationships
Telling your date about past relationships is a big no if you are just seeing him or her for a few dates. Not unless you have been seeing each other for quite sometime and you know it is okay to share it then it is fine. Remember to keep something for yourself especially that you do not know the person just yet.
80. Movie dates are not adviseable
Going on a movie date is nice however avoid it on the first date. First date intends to be the getting to know you stage, an introduction about you as date. Talking inside the cinema is challenging and your attention is not 100%. It is loud and dark plus there are a lot of people inside.
81. Pay attention
Paying attention to your date is crucial as it gives you assurance that the person you are dating has no issues. Be observant, so you can see red flags. Both red flags and good traits about the person can help you decide if you will continue seeing him or her.
82. Avoid bringing your date into your home
Do not bring your date home, it is too risky. Rushing things can lead to wrong decisions. Be careful in your actions that is why you need to leave your house out of your new dating venture. Only bring home a date when you are on the next level of your relationship.
83. Be honest
Be genuine as possible. Once you find yourself really interested about the person and you envision yourself marrying him or her, then being honest about it and with your intention pays off well in the end. You are building a relationship with strong foundation of trust, commitment and love.
84. Show that you will be interested
You do not need to hide what you are feeling. You do not have to say it upfront but at least showing it in your action would mean so much to the other person. It gives reassurance that it is worth the investment knowing you more.
85. Your cellular phone is off limit
When on your date, be mindful of answering text messages and phone calls. These are annoying actions that irritates your date. Give him or her full attention, unless it is an emergency. You can put your cellphone in silent mode so it will not interrupt in your conversation.
86. Talking and being attentive
Listening is different from hearing. When you listen, you are being attentive and you follows the conversation pretty well. However, make sure to find the balance. You can not talk all the time while the other is just listening and vice versa. Make sure that it will be a conversation and not just merely listening to you.
87. Positively show off yourself
Sell yourself effectively by showing of your positive self. You can really make a good impression of you when you speak well about yourself without bragging. Good qualities that are surely to like and love are the very first things you want to learn about you.
88. Create online accounts to meet new people
There is nothing wrong in choosing to look for a date through online platforms such as social media. It is the new trend and there are relationships that are way better than the traditional. I am not saying that it is ideal, but exploring your options outside the normal dating is certainly worth trying.
89. Make sure someone knows you are dating
Since there are several crazy people nowadays, it will always be smart to tell a friend or your family that you are going on a date with someone you barely knew. Inform them about the time and location you are meeting to be safe. You may also want to consider going on a day date instead of night, and by going to public places.
90. Never compare yourself with exes
Exes are past lovers so it should not affect your current relationship. If you are dating, do not focus on their exes and never compare. You are unique and there are no relationship that are completely identical. Make sure to create your own version of relationship rather than being pathetically affected by an ex lover.
91. Do not be always available
Do not be too available to people who are not willing to prioritize you and just considering you as part of a dating list. If they do not call you for awhile while dating some else then surprisingly reached out again for another date, do not agree.
92. Do not be confrontational
Confrontational or aggressive people are often considered to be self reliant and self-assured. Do not show off an attitude. If your date gets that impression that you are confrontational, then he or she might think that your extreme behavior will be used towards them in the future by you.
93. What if your date will not answer your questions
Asking questions is good, however if the other person is not willing to answer do not feel bad about it. It means a lot and it should be okay. Never assume that they are hiding something but maybe they are not comfortable just yet.
94. You can always say no
Never hesitate to say no if you do not agree on something. If you do that, then you are being honest. It would imply that you are someone who stands on what you believe in.
95. Honesty is important in dating
Everyone wants to have their date to be as honest as possible, so it is best to be honest on yourself too. You can keep secrets, we all have secrets but at least being honest in simple things like if you do not want the restaurant you are eating or the place where you at. If you do not like it, then say it.
96. It really is fine to be unsure on the first date
Dating is sometimes unpredictable and truly things may happen differently and surprisingly. It is okay to be unsure about the dating and the person you are dating. Most often people do not get comfortable yet during the first meet up, so try to give it some time and patience. Once you are more comfortable by dating regularly, then that is the time you can think if the person is ready to take the dating to the next level.
97. Do not date because your family and friends want to
Go on a date because you want it yourself and not because others want you to. Forcing yourself into dating and worst in committing in a relationship is not healthy. It is also not fair to the person you are dating. So it is best that you go out on the date because you truly want to.
98. Choosing the best website for internet dating
Internet dating provides ways to meet people who may share the same hobbies and interest as yours. Choosing the website is making your research. Confirm legitimacy of the website, be sure that your information is safe.
99. You are not required to say the three magic words
Only say the three magic words, when you truly mean it. Saying I love you must be in the most sincere way. When the other person said I love you, if you not feel do not be obligated in saying it back.
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