How to Attract & Date Younger Women
What I Mean By “Younger Women”…
Estimated reading time: 48 minutes
Table of contents
- How to Attract & Date Younger Women
- What I Mean By “Younger Women”…
- A Different Strategy on How to Attract Women
- When Dating Young Women Learn How She Sees Older Men
- Planning About Dating Young Women; Where to Go and To Find Her
- How to Attract Young Women: Before You Talk To Her
- How to Attract Young Women and Getting Closer to Her
- To Attract Young Women, Always Make her feel secure.
- Get Her Interested
- Make Attraction
- What to Say at the First Meeting
- Volunteer and assist
- What Should Be Said Next: Second Meeting
- Be Someone Different From the Other Guys
- Things to Never Say or Do: Things to Avoid in Dating Young Women
- Things to Avoid in Dating Young Women #1: Don’t make disparaging remarks about your ex (wives, girlfriends, etc.)
- Things to Avoid in Dating Young Women #2: Don’t claim to despise marriage or children. And don’t say you’ll never marry again or have any (more) children.
- Things to Avoid in Dating Young Women #3: If you are dating other women, don’t bring it up unless she asks.
- Things to Avoid in Dating Young Women #4:Talking about sex, even joking about it, is also frowned upon right now.
- Things to Avoid in Dating Young Women #5: Never make fun of her age or how ‘young’ she is.
- Things to Avoid in Dating Young Women #6: I’ve also already warned you not to make fun of her interests, tastes, clothing or sense of style, goals, beliefs, dreams, aspirations, and so on.
- The Date
This article used a mature approach on how to attract women and not girls. When a girl is already able to handle her own and other duties of life, she can be called a woman hence dating a girl and a woman is different in so many ways.
Would She Even Want You…
Before I try to convince you of whether a young woman would even want to date you, just look around. Or at least think back to all those times when you saw a young, 20-something female hanging out with a much older man, a man who could very easily be her father. In fact, most times other men quickly assume that “he must be the father” or at least an uncle. I mean, who else could it be, right? Maybe a teacher/professor, even. But surely not her date, or god forbid, her lover!
The truth is, young women date older guys all the time. Not all of them, obviously. But many of them.
So if you want to find a beautiful, attract young woman to date, you can get one but only if you know how the game is played.
Never use the same dating styles and pickup lines with your dates. Dating and attracting younger women is a very different game than dating girls. Therefore, a very different set of rules apply.
Worry no more, this article will help you to learn how to successfully find and attract young women to agree on a date! 🙂
A Different Strategy on How to Attract Women
The reason attracting young women is so different from attracting girls is simply because young women are different. Younger women see the world very differently than older women. They act differently, they perceive differently, and they even have diverse beliefs and ideals.
Most men find them more appealing to be a date, because they don’t have all the excess baggage, or the bitterness, and they’re not jaded or guarded like older women are. I do not blame older women for acting differently because their challenges in life is much way extreme and often suck the joy out of them.
Young women are also generally happier people! They just have less crap to deal with mostly includes no ex-husbands and no kids. So, they are more nicer to be with than many older women.
The point is, when you attract young women, they’re different from other women.
So, you must understand that not all dating approaches and techniques would work for younger women especially if your age gap is over 10 years.
And, if she’s under 25, you will have to be even more careful about following the tips and suggestions in this article very closely. If after you read this article and you find yourself attracting a young woman, then that is great! It is possible.
However, not all older men would be able to do that. You will soon learn why most men will not be able to get an instant date with young women, as you read through the rest of this article.
Therefore, the focus of this article is showing you how to use different techniques and strategies that you can use effectively in dating and attracting younger women. At the end of this journey you will find this strategy pretty efficient and effective in attracting young women. Results may not be instant but it is worth trying and waiting.
I will also show you how to start interacting with more young women simultaneously, instead of just one at different times and locations before finally choosing one.
By using this strategy on multiple women, simultaneously, you will make time work in your favor.
And, using this strategy the way I have creaed it will also help you to not burn any bridges with the other women that you have been talking to.
So, if for some reason, the first woman did not work out as well as you hoped, you would always be able to go to the next woman in line and start to take things further with her. And, you would still have many other women remaining to choose from.
When Dating Young Women Learn How She Sees Older Men
Reality is, when you are attracting young women, younger women do not go out looking for older men. Obviously, you have to look for them. Remember that you have to understand how the typical young woman generally views older men who are strangers. A young woman can be impressed, intimidated, and afraid of older men, all at the same time. After all, she does see you as an “adult.”
There is actually a lot that she has to worry about when dealing with an older man.
First of all, understand that most guys, including the older ones, can become bumbling idiots when in the presence of a hot, sexy 22-year old female. Even if she happens to be an airhead.
Most men are just mentally conditioned to react that way around beautiful women. But, her reaction to a bumbling idiot her own age can be very different from a bumbling idiot who is much older than her. And, how she reacts is what matters most.
An older guy could be an intelligent, successful, even powerful man who has connections and resources beyond what a young person could ever dream of. All of that can actually be intimidating for a young woman. And it would also make her wonder why this smart, successful, and powerful man is interested to her and interested in attracting young women like her.
Surely, he would only be concern about dating and having sex with a young woman, then leaving her, and running back to his wife or “real” girlfriend, right?
But keep in mind that she also watches TV and sees this kind of stuff happening to women her age all the time. She may also personally know, or have heard of, at least one woman who went through one of these negative experiences.
Finally, she also has to worry about how others will see her for dating, or even talking around an older man. It may seem like a small thing to you, but what others think of her is a serious thing for her, especially when it has to do with her dating (or talking to) an older man.
She has a lot to be worried about. What would her friends say and think about her? how would other guys her own age treat her? How would her parents react that their girl is dating an older man? And, What would other people call her, a gold digger, a slut, or worse?
So, yes, these are the kinds of things that can go through a young woman’s mind when dated by an older man.
Obviously, you cannot let her wonder about any of the above things about you if you are interested in attracting her, and eventually going out with her.
Before she decides to date you or even talk to you most of the time, you would need to put all of her above worries and fears to rest. Otherwise, you can forget about ever getting anywhere with her or with any young woman.
Later in this article, I will show you how to approach her correctly, so that you do not raise any red flags in her mind.
I will go over the steps you need to follow, in order to eliminate all of her fears and worries before you can successfully attract young women.
Planning About Dating Young Women; Where to Go and To Find Her
Truly, all you would need to do is escape your home furthermore, you would have the option to meet and attract young women. You could discover her at the supermarket, at the cafe, at the book shop, at the library, at the shopping center, in an eatery, at the recreation center, at a yoga class or elsewhere that individuals would regularly go to, similar to a gathering, a wedding, or some other kind of social affair. These places can, and should, also include any place you’d go to, to indulge in any of your hobbies or interests.
Truth be told, I strongly encourage men to begin by going to places that they go regularly. That way, you will at any point discover ladies that are of the same interest as yours whether it is yoga, climbing, running, or whatever you end up being into.
Young women are everywhere. Where NOT to Go, And What Not to Do
Thus, while most places are incredible for discovering young ladies, there are a few specific places and situations that you should stay away from. You see, the biggest mistake most older men make is, they try to compete with the young men who are much closer to the young women’s age. In other words, men that the young women would normally go out with.
If you try to compete with the young guys based on their strengths, you will lose. If you’re more than 35 years oid, or somewhere in that range, there is no way you can look, dress or act as young as the young guys. You could try but you would fail, or you would just make a fool of yourself in the process. You certainly don’t want the young women to laugh at you or feel sorry for you in any way. If any of that happens, it will be very hard for you to recover from it.
Never try to compete in the young guy’s turf. Instead, bring the fight to your turf where you are the superior man.
She dates an older man because there are characteristics about an older man that young guys just do not have.
She dates an older man because an older man can provide her the experiences that a young guy just cannot give her. So stop trying to look, act or be younger. You already have characteristics and assets that young guys do not possess. And, those are the things you should use to your advantage.
Stay out of those loud, noisy night clubs, parties or bars that young women may go to, where you would have to compete with a bunch of young guys.
That also means, avoid college campuses or any other places where you would have to compete with guys her age.
Instead, go to upscale clubs. You will find better quality young women there anyway. And you will be able to show off your maturity and sophistication, and leave the young guys eating your dust (and leftover crumbs.)
How to Attract Young Women: Before You Talk To Her
Before you decide to walk up and strike up a conversation that lasts for a few minutes and start to attract a young women, remember what I mentioned earlier…
Most men will fail if they try to ask her out on a date the first time they speak to her.
Also, keep in mind that you must first eliminate any doubts, worries, or reservations she might have about conversing with older men in general.
So, rather than approaching her and conversing with her for a few minutes, it’s usually a good idea to simply test the waters and gauge her reaction/response and general “feel” towards you.
Your goal is to avoid raising any of the red flags we discussed earlier. So be very casual and at ease and treat her as you would a woman you are not attracted. You only need to smile at her. Or simply say “Hi” or “How are you?” in a friendly and comfortable tone, or give her a friendly nod as you smile. Then you can move on. You should not linger.
The goal is to get her used to you. A great way to do this is to look for women you’ve met before, such as those who work at places you frequently go, such as your favorite coffee shop, juice bar, grocery store, or restaurant. You can greet her with a “Hi” or “How are you?” each time you visit that establishment. You’re just being friendly and laid-back. Everything is perfectly normal.
Important: Make an effort to be friendly to everyone around you, not just her.
That is, if you go to your favorite coffee shop one day and she happens to be there but someone else serves you, be just as nice and friendly to that other server – even if he is a guy.
If you don’t do that if you’re just nice to her, she’ll pick up on it and suspect something is wrong (even if she notices it on a subconscious level.) She’ll sense that something isn’t quite right about you. So, once again, the keyword is ‘casual.’ Take it easy. And don’t give her the impression that you’re interested in asking her out or dating her. You’re just being polite.
And pay attention to how she reacts to you. She will usually respond in a friendly manner if you remain calm and casual.
It is best to move on to someone else if she appears to be turned off in any way. Try to attract another young women.
(Do not worry, there are plenty of young women available.) Do not get hung up on a stranger who, for whatever reason, chose not to smile or say “Hi” back. You probably would not want to date her in the first place.
But do not start being obnoxious to her either. It is possible she is just having a bad day or that she simply despises her job.)
If she responds positively and friendly every time you see her, you can move on to the next step – after you’ve had a few run-ins with her and given her a chance to get used to you.
How to Attract Young Women and Getting Closer to Her
The ‘approach’ is the first time you go up to her and talk to her, i.e. have an actual conversation with her that lasts up to 5 minutes. So, ideally, the first time you approach her (to talk), it will not be the first time you’ve noticed each other despite the fact that it could be (if you have no other option.)
Remember, before you go talk to her, that you do not want to raise any red flags and you still do not want to give her the impression that you are interested in dating her – just yet.
You are only mildly interested in her – as a person, as far as she knows. That is all there is to it. That means you’re not going to compliment her on her appearance, you’re not going to flirt with her, and you’re definitely not going to ask her out or use any of the typical pickup lines you might use on other women.
Remember to keep it light. And don’t even try to pick her up. No, not yet.
For the time being, your main goal is to talk to her for at least 5 minutes and to convince her that you are safe, i.e. that you pose no physical or emotional threat to her (intimidation, etc.)
And, of course, during those first few conversations, you’d want to pique her interest in you – even if it’s just as a ‘person’ (vs a potential date.)
Only after you have completed the preceding two steps can you begin to work on attracting her attention. Later, I’ll go over all three of the aforementioned phases in greater detail.
I have also discovered that if she initiates the interaction, whether verbally or nonverbally, the first conversation always goes much better. She might not say anything to you, but she might smile and/or make good eye contact (more than one time.) That’s a good sign that she’s interested in you – at least on some level.
It’s also an excellent opportunity to speak with her. So, after she’s shown interest, wait a few moments (but not too long), and then approach her. (However, don’t wait for this to be your only chance; don’t always rely on her to show interest first.)
Again, this is almost the polar opposite of how I would treat and/or approach other (older) women.
To Attract Young Women, Always Make her feel secure.
So, the primary goal of your first conversation is to make her feel safe…to alleviate any fears she may have about the consequences of talking to (or dating) you…
whether physical, emotional, or social in nature.
As previously stated, the key to calming her down is to be casual…and friendly.
You don’t want anything strange or uncomfortable to happen. (If you notice that things are going in that direction, politely end the conversation and leave.) You could simply state that you are running late, and so on. Also, try to talk to her again another time. Remember, for most men, this is a new skill, so consider all of these attempts to be “practice runs.”
Keep in mind that if you become nervous or anxious, she will begin to do the same. In these situations, women have a proclivity to mimic the man’s mental/emotional states without even realizing it.
Obviously, you’ll also have to appear to be someone she wouldn’t want to talk to.
You cannot also arrive with dirty teeth, bad breath, greasy/dirty hair, body odor, dirty/smelly clothes, and so on. Shower, smell nice, and put on clean clothes and shoes. Don’t give her any reason to form (negative) opinions about you.
You don’t have to dress like a 20-year-old, but you should look presentable without appearing overly effortful. (Remember, don’t look, act, or be anything that will make her laugh or feel sorry for you.)
Let me say it again… be informal, relaxed, and friendly Just as you would when speaking to anyone else (especially people you aren’t attracted to).
You’d also want to keep the conversation as brief as possible. This is not the time to ponder those profound, thought-provoking questions about life, and so on.
Instead, speak about something to which she can relate.
Also, something that is happening at the time and may be affecting her in some way is a good ice breaker. Ideally, it would be preferable if that something also affected you… As a result, it appears to her that you are both ‘sharing’ the experience, albeit on a small scale.
The weather is always a good icebreaker, and it often happens to be something that affects both of you at the same time, while you’re talking to her. (It’s either too hot or too cold…or just strange and unpredictable weather, etc.)
If you’re both waiting in line at the grocery store, post office, DMV, or somewhere else, you have something that affects both of you and can be relayed to her as a’shared’ experience.
Be cautious about using humor and jokes during your first conversation with her. You should not make direct fun of her, especially not about her appearance or attire.
Because young women are so concerned with their appearance and how they appear to others…
And, because younger women are often more insecure and self-conscious, you should never make fun of how she looks, what she wears, what she says, or what she does. (As I previously stated, picking up young women is very different from picking up other women.)
Get Her Interested
Once you have calmed her fears and demonstrated that you are safe and friendly, the rest of the process becomes much easier. Remember, you must appear to be someone she would want to talk to. Brush your teeth, shower, smell nice, and put on clean clothes and shoes. Most importantly, maintain a relaxed demeanor. (You’ll notice I’m repeating myself because it’s crucial.)
Important: During your first few conversations with her, make sure you end the conversation, not she. (Also, don’t wait until she decides to end it or until the conversation runs out of steam.)
It’s always a good idea to leave her wanting more. (It will also make her remember you after you’ve gone.) And the only way to accomplish this is if you are the one who concludes the conversations. Of course, you don’t want to come across as rude or arrogant. Do it in a way that doesn’t make her feel strange, embarrassed, or self-conscious. So, after about 5 minutes of talking with her, tell her that you “really need to get going,” but that “it was really great talking” with her, and that you will talk to her again or “see her later,” etc.
As you may have noticed, you would have already begun to lay the groundwork for creating attraction in the preceding phase. You can now expand on that. You can begin to introduce some tidbits about yourself during the second meeting to show her that you’re different from the young guys (or boys) she’s used to dating and/or hanging out with. Demonstrate to her that you are more mature and sophisticated, and that you have had some amazing experiences and adventures that most young men do not have. As a result, you will persuade her to consider sharing some of those adventures and experiences with you.
Let’s get into the specifics of what you should say to her now, beginning with the first meeting and progressing.
What to Say at the First Meeting
Before approaching her, keep in mind that you are not attempting to imitate the young men she usually hangs out with. That is to say, you do not want to start the conversation with the same old boring lines that the young guys use to talk to her. So don’t say things like, “Hey, what’s your name?”
…or… “Don’t I recognize you from somewhere?”
…or… “Are you single?”
…or any of the other tired, old phrases. Allow the young men (or boys) to use them.
You want to show her that you’re a man, and that you’re not like the “boys” she is used to. But do it while still remaining. You guessed it informal.
The key to being casual is to be friendly while avoiding being direct. You’re only interested in her as a fellow human at this point. As previously stated, it is always best to begin with something she can relate to at the time, i.e. something in her current environment or experience. You can also make a remark about something she’s wearing, but it shouldn’t turn into (or lead to) a remark about her appearance. Instead, make it all about that item, such as how cool, interesting, or unique it is…where did she get it, and so on.
For example, if she is wearing an interesting necklace, ring, or even a funky top, you can make a comment about it (but don’t say anything about how pretty she looks in it, etc.).
If she’s wearing a t-shirt from Mexico, Hawaii, or another vacation destination, you can definitely use that to start the conversation. Inquire if she went on vacation there, and/or mention that you were there recently (or even a few years ago.) Noticing something other than her appearance, i.e. not her breasts or ass, also demonstrates that you are different from most younger guys (and even many older guys.) She’ll also appreciate the fact that you don’t just see her as a hot body to tap.
If it begins to rain outside, you can always complain about how you wished you had brought an umbrella. She might say the same thing. Suddenly, you’re referring to a “shared experience.” Talking about something in common is always a good place to start. If you’re both on a train that has come to a stop for unknown reasons, you can share your mild frustration with her in a lighthearted and/or sarcastic manner.
After that, you can introduce yourself (by name) and extend your hand to shake hers. “By the way, my name is Bryan.” Then you can go on to talk about what you started with, or something related to it. Also, pay attention to her level of interest as well as her overall mental/emotional state.
If you are both at a party and have been exchanging glances and smiles for the past 30 minutes, you can approach her and start talking about how you know your host. (Remember to keep the conversation light and fun; nothing serious or thought-provoking.)
Volunteer and assist
Do not expect her to carry the conversation, especially in the first few minutes, because she may be just as nervous or uncomfortable as you are. Instead, assist her by first telling her about yourself. Give her some information and wait for her to respond.
As an example: “The party’s host is my cousin.”
If she does not volunteer again, she may be nervous, so you can assist her once more.
“How did you get to know him (the host)?”
And, once again, do not expect her to say more than a single sentence or a few words.
Return to voluntarily providing more information about yourself.
“Yeah, I’ve known him almost my entire life. We also attended the same college. I even went on a couple of vacations with him.”
…or… “You know, when we were kids, we used to pretend we were hosting our own parties. haha”
You have just given her a few topics to discuss: college, vacations, being kids, pretending, parties, and, of course, family. However, if she is still unable to understand the conversation, continue to assist her in the manner described above. Also, keep it light! Don’t take it personally if she can’t seem to talk to you comfortably just yet. Keep an eye on her level of interest, as well as her overall comfort and state of mind. She will feel more at ease about doing the same if you continue to volunteer information about yourself.
Or, at the very least, she will have some topics to choose from, which you have provided her with by talking about what is going on around you, such as the party, the music, the guests, the cake, the weather, and so on. (All of these are excellent back-up topics, especially if you find yourself stuck or unable to think of anything else to say.)
Furthermore, these are all “safe” topics. You are not revealing, nor are you asking her to reveal, personal information. Furthermore, you are not discussing extremely serious issues.
If she still does not seem to be doing well after 4 or 5 minutes, it is time for you to politely excuse yourself (which you would have done anyway after 5 minutes of talking to her) and leave for a while.
So, after about 5 minutes of conversation, leave and give her a chance to process everything. You can excuse yourself to go talk to someone you just saw, to re-fill your drink, to use the restroom, to get something out of your car. The goal is to politely exit.
And return at a later time (assuming she didn’t seem bored or uninterested in you or your initial conversation). Going away, i.e. ending the conversation first (rather than waiting for her to do it or letting the conversation die), also shows her that you’re only mildly interested in her – which reinforces the fact that you’re “safe.”
Note: By leaving and returning to her, you will give her mind the ‘perception’ that your return is a “second” meeting – even if both meetings are only 15 minutes apart (on the same day!)
And, as you may be aware, a “second” meeting can usually make a person (read: her) feel more at ease talking to you. PLUS by leaving, which most guys don’t do, you will draw her closer to you on some level in her mind. That is always a good thing!
Note: If you’re interested in more than one woman/prospect at the party, you could switch between them, make your rounds, and talk to the other young woman you’re interested in while you take a break / walk away from the first one.
This may also instill jealousy and/or competition in the minds of the two women. Take that as a plus. (However, don’t overdo it or make it appear obvious; otherwise, it will work against you.)
What Should Be Said Next: Second Meeting
Let us talk about women you’ll meet at coffee shops, grocery stores, and other places you frequent where the woman happens to work. Or even women you meet for the second time at the park, yoga class, gym, etc., i.e. the location where you first met her (because she told you that she would be there again at a certain time and day.)
If this is your second meeting/conversation with a woman in any of the situations/locations listed above, one of the first things you would do is bring up something from your previous conversation with her. This is an excellent way to “join” the second meeting with the first and provide her mind with a sense of continuity. So, if you mentioned a particular “favorite” movie or band during the first meeting, you could mention something about the movie star from that movie (that he’s coming out with a new movie, etc.) or some new news about the band, their recent performance/tour, etc.
If she mentioned going somewhere, you could ask her how it went, if she’s ready to go yet, or something along those lines, depending on the situation. Performing the aforementioned actions (creating a sense of continuity) is also a casual way of informing her that you have been thinking about her. Okay let us return to the earlier party situation you excused yourself after 5 minutes and are now preparing to return for the “second” meeting.
So far, you’ve only shown her that you are mildly interested in her and you’ve done so nonverbally through your eyes, smile, body language, and so on. You are not to use words to express your interest in her. No, not yet.
Okay, so you’ve just returned to her…probably after talking to another lady and possibly creating some competition in the first woman, which will make her slightly more eager to talk to you.
Heck, she might even approach you a second time in order to restart the conversation. You never know what might happen. It does happen from time to time.
In any case, you ahve just started talking to her again.
Continue to demonstrate your interest in her. However, keep in mind that this should not be done directly or overtly. Don’t downplay or exaggerate your feelings for her.
That way, she can continue to be at ease and neither of you will feel rejected or strange.
And by not showing too much interest, you will continue to make her work a little bit in order to keep things moving forward. (Hot, young women are used to having guys wrapped around their little finger from the start, so give her a little more than she’s used to with other guys.)
This is a good time to “casually” (and subtly) reveal that you’re single and possibly available.
As an example:
“Initially, my ex-girlfriend (or ex-wife) was supposed to accompany me to the party but she did not show up.
It just seemed strange, you know? ”
It’s always a good sign if she asks follow-up questions about the above statement.
You can also inject small bursts of “higher interest” in her into the conversation. But do it all nonverbally, that is, without using words.
For example, you may catch yourself looking into her eyes to give her the impression that you adore her. And then he’ll smile and go back to being “casual,” talking about everyday things.
You can also begin to introduce some physical touching for example, having her “high five” you after either of you has shared something exciting or at least interesting. But don’t force it into the interaction, and don’t go overboard with the touching either.
You can make fun of her directly at this point, once she is more comfortable with you. This will make her wonder about your level of interest in her once more. It will also throw her off a little bit and make a work a little more towards you.
You obviously don’t want to say anything hurtful or embarrassing that will be difficult to recover from. (Remember, nothing about her appearance or what she’s wearing.)
Pretend you’re mocking your younger sister or niece. But don’t go overboard. Allow plenty of space between these “pokes” for normal, casual conversation.
Making light of her will gradually increase her attraction to you.
Continue to talk about whatever you were talking about before you (verbally) poked her. Alternatively, quickly change the subject to a related topic. In other words, don’t be too quiet after you poke her.
Continue to reveal more about yourself (but don’t brag or boast about anything.) And, continue to ask her questions about the same (or similar) things that you just revealed about yourself, i.e. assist her with her end of the conversation as needed.
Important: Do not ask her too personal questions. If it doesn’t come up naturally, don’t ask her how old she is. Don’t ask her if she has a boyfriend (unless it comes up naturally), and don’t ask her where she lives. Keep in mind that you don’t want to raise any “creepy guy” or “stalker/slasher” flags in her mind.
She would have become much more comfortable with you by this point, so she may bring up topics or points of interest that she wants to discuss or is interested in.
That’s great. That’s fine. Discuss anything that she is interested in.
And…never make fun of anything she likes, is interested in, or desires. (Remember that young women are already self-conscious and uncertain about life, goals, and so on, so you don’t want to make her feel stupid or embarrassed about any of her likes, tastes, goals, dreams, aspirations, and so on.)
Show interest in her interests, ask genuine follow-up questions, share something relatable, tell her more about yourself, and so on (Music, movies, hobbies, favorite foods, whatever.)
Be Someone Different From the Other Guys
You can now start showing her how you are different than the young guys she is used to once she has opened up or after the third date or more. However, be careful not to come across as arrogant or boastful.
So, in a more graceful and subtle manner, weave those things/qualities about yourself.
For example, if you are already talking about vacations, travel, or even the wine you’re drinking, you could use that as a springboard to discuss your trip to France (or Italy, or whatever.) Almost everyone wants to travel, whether to Europe or elsewhere. (She may have already visited one of those locations as part of a high school or college program.) As a result, you will have some common subtopics to discuss.)
Or she may simply realize that you are not like the guys (or “boys”) she is used to dating.
In any case, if she is interested in the topic of “travel,” that’s a good sign.
You could also discuss other, more local, places (amazing restaurants, museums, etc.) or experiences that most young men would be uninterested in but she might be! (And, once again, you’ll show her how you’re different – and better – than the boys she has dated in the past.)
And she might start to see you as someone with whom she could go on these cool, new adventures, visit exotic places, and so on.
Consider what attracts the younger generation. And choose one or two to “impress” her with. (This will differ slightly depending on where you live on the planet.) The topics she discusses may also provide you with a wealth of information about what piques her interest, excites her, and draws her in.
Consider the things that most younger women are unable to do. Whether it’s fixing the computer or other electronics, creating a website, reprogramming her cell phone, doing minor (or major) car repairs, or even repairing things that frequently break around the house, etc.
These are also topics that you (or she) could bring up later in order to schedule the next meeting or “date.” It’s a great way to ask each other out without risking rejection or embarrassment. More on that later. (However, before you bring up topics where she might need your assistance, make sure she likes you first.) You don’t want to end up like the high school boy who “did her homework for her.” That is why you must wait until at least the third meeting to bring this up.)
At this point, you could also persuade her to reveal a little more about herself. As is customary, you would first disclose/volunteer/share the same information about yourself. And then inquire of her concerning hers For example, you could discuss what you do, which could lead to a discussion of where you work (which city), which could lead to a question about where she works… You’d eventually talk about where you live… and then persuade her to do the same with you.
No worries if she doesn’t appear to be ready to share that information just yet. Keep your cool and don’t force the issue. Remember, don’t ask these questions directly. Instead of asking her, “Where do you live?” you could ask, “Do you live in the neighborhood?” It’s a little more oblique than the previous question. And, as always, pay attention to how she’s feeling (without appearing to be staring at her) and pay attention to what she reveals about herself All of that information may contain hints that you can use to set up future meetings (dates) with her.
For example, if you discover that you both enjoy hiking, or rescuing puppies, or whatever, you can casually suggest that the two of you do it together sometime in the future. Or, since you’re at a party and you’re both having a good time, you could talk about a future party you’re planning and invite her to it.
Or, if both of you are coffee/tea drinkers (or even if you aren’t,) you could make a date to do it sometime. It’s not a big deal, and it’s not too serious (especially if you haven’t asked her out to lunch or dinner yet.) While you’re at it, you might end up exchanging Facebook IDs, emails, or even text/phone numbers. If not, no worries – don’t make a big deal about it or push too hard for it.
Remember: You would have already (much earlier) subtly disclosed that you are single and available before attempting to set up the next date. (Remember when you casually mentioned your “Ex?” Not bringing up the subject at the end of the conversation/meeting is a good way to set up the next date. Instead, bring it up much earlier – and in a much more indirect manner.
“Yeah, maybe you and I should check out that new coffee shop one of these days,” you could say. Just to make sure they’re doing everything correctly, you know?” (Or, you know, that new hiking trail.) Notice how I added a little joke at the end to help it be a little more indirect. And then just leave it at that. She’ll either say, “Yes, sounds good,” or “No, not at all.” Or she’ll say something completely different. In any case, you’re not going to try to get her phone number or email right now.
Just get back to talking about something else. What you’ve just done is planted the idea in her head… and you didn’t ask for her phone number… which will make her wonder or provide some relief from any pressure and it may also entice her to move closer to you to persuade you to be more direct in asking her out (if that’s what she wants to see). It’s a fun little game we have to play with young ladies.)
Then, as you get closer to the end of the conversation/meeting, bring it up again and offer to exchange information if she doesn’t offer it first. Also, as previously mentioned, you could use any of the skills you mentioned (things that younger women can’t do, like fixing the computer, setting up a website, doing minor (or major) repair work on cars, fixing things that break around the house, and so on).
You can both use any of those tasks as an excuse to set up a ‘date’ to see each other again – removing the pressure and/or risk of rejection, embarrassment, or anything else. For example, after hearing about your ability to repair computers, she may mention (either immediately or later in the conversation) that her computer has been giving her problems.
As soon as she says that, you could either offer to help her with it (without mocking her for asking). Alternatively, you could carefully tuck that tidbit (about her broken computer) away in your mind for later use, such as setting up the next meeting. There are a lot of ways you can both use indirectly to set up the next date. (Of course, you can be more direct if you believe she can handle it.) However, my advice is to be cautious most of the time by being indirect just in case).
In addition… If you don’t get any chances to set up a second date. If one of you is about to leave the party, don’t be sad about it. You’re still figuring out how to attract young women. Try not to be too hard on yourself. Simply learn from your mistakes. You can also be more direct at this point, because you really don’t have any other option, and you may never see her again, so what the hell go for it.
You can simply say, “Hey, it’s been great talking with you!” (or…I’ve had a great time talking with you…) We should get together again and have some more fun!”. Say it with genuine enthusiasm, but without sounding nervous or hesitant. (Remember…casual and friendly, but not overly interested.)
She might respond with something like, “Yeah, that sounds great!” I had a good time, too!” At that point, you would exchange phone numbers. Or she could respond in a variety of “less enthusiastic” ways. (She may do this even if she likes you. But for some reason, she is hesitant to give you her contact information. Maybe she has a boyfriend who she is trying to replace.)
The point is, no matter what happens, keep your cool and don’t take it personally and don’t appear upset or angry. If you do, you will eliminate any chance of ever seeing her again. (By the way, just because she has a boyfriend does not mean she will refuse to see you. So don’t squander it by taking any of her reactions personally.) Instead, give it one more shot by asking, “Are you sure you want to go back to talking with all those other boring guys?” or something along those lines Say it in a half-joking tone to get her to laugh a little.
If you can make her laugh at this point, her willingness to give you her information (phone number, etc.) will increase significantly. And, if she still isn’t able to do it for whatever reason, you have two options:
- Give her your business card and tell her, “Alright, I’ve got to get going, but I really enjoyed talking with you.” Give me a call and we’ll go grab a coffee or something.”
- State, “All right, I have to get going…
You brat, give me a hug.” After the hug, hand her your business card and repeat the second sentence from #1 above. That is all there is to it. In these cases, there is nothing else you can do. Don’t ignore her phone call, either. Simply do your job well and move on. Some women are able to call, while many others are unable to do so. Don’t worry about it.
Besides, that’s why you’re interacting with so many young women at once. This not only increases your chances of getting a date with one of them, but it also provides you with plenty of practice so you can keep improving your “game” with young women. The better you get at using the tips in this report, the better your responses from women will be.
So, just go out there and have a good time with these young ladies. Improve your use of the strategies. This is very similar to driving a car. Reading the driver’s manual isn’t enough; you need to get out there and start practicing with a real car on a real street.
Don’t get too caught up in “getting the date” just yet. Simply have fun and practice. And you never know, you might just hook up with a nice young lady during your practice runs! (It’s happened to a lot of guys before.) Thinking of it as “practice” takes the edge off, which allows you to perform better and achieve better results!)
Things to Never Say or Do: Things to Avoid in Dating Young Women
As you guide a young woman through the various stages of the process outlined in this report from making her feel safe to getting her interested in you, to creating attraction in her for you, to going on a date with her. Certain “forbidden” topics and actions should be avoided.
And, as much as possible, avoid bringing up specific topics on purpose especially in the early stages of the interaction. If these topics are brought up (by her), you should know how to respond to them, i.e. what not to say. The truth is that you never know what the young woman is thinking at any given time. You have no idea what her intentions are toward you. And so, unless you’re looking for something very specific from her, you should keep your options open.
She might see you as a potential date or “fling” candidate… or she may already have a boyfriend and be considering having a “affair” with you. So, unless you are looking for something very specific from her (in which case, you should just be honest about your intentions so you can weed out the wrong ones), you should not ruin any of your chances unnecessarily.
Also, sometimes it’s just better not to openly admit to certain things until you’ve reached the attraction phase, or much later. At that point, you can reveal more about yourselves to each other and decide whether or not to continue the interaction. Let’s go over some things you should never do or say… (At least not in the early stages of your interaction with her).
Things to Avoid in Dating Young Women #1: Don’t make disparaging remarks about your ex (wives, girlfriends, etc.)
You don’t have to say nice things about them, but you also shouldn’t sound bitter or angry at them. It will give her the impression that you are still not completely over them, or that you are the type who holds onto anger and bitterness and refuses to move on. None of these are desirable characteristics.
Things to Avoid in Dating Young Women #2: Don’t claim to despise marriage or children. And don’t say you’ll never marry again or have any (more) children.
(You do not have to lie. But, for the time being, you can simply say, “it’s possible if I meet the right person.” Take note: Older women are often cynical and bitter about certain things, including men in general. That’s one of the things that makes those women unappealing. So, don’t give the young lady the same reasons to think of you as unappealing. Remember that you don’t know what she’ll use to “next” you right away. So, be more candid about these topics later, when you know each other better and aren’t going to make snap judgments about the other person.
(As I mentioned earlier, there’s a good chance she’s seeing someone or even has a boyfriend, especially if she’s hot.) So there’s no point in putting an end to this interaction before you find out if you two really like each other.) Make it a point not to bring up other women unless she brings it up. And definitely don’t leer at or flirt with other women while you’re with her. (That would be pretty stupid of you to do while on a date, period.) Swearing, cussing, and using profanity are also prohibited for the next few conversations/meetings. Even if she does use it occasionally (or a lot.)
You will be tempted to try to “be more like her” by doing what she does. But resist the urge. Remember, you’re not like the young guys. You’ve matured and become more sophisticated. (Don’t make her feel bad about her swearing/cussing, and don’t let your face show it either.) Just don’t start cursing yourself to try to “fit in.”)
Even if she brings it up, whether jokingly or with innuendos. If she does make a sexual innuendo or tell a dirty/sexual joke, acknowledge it (with a smile, laughter, or whatever is appropriate for the situation) and move on without making her feel strange or embarrassed.
She might enjoy how it feels to joke about these things, especially around an older man… But believe me when I say she isn’t ready for you to respond in the same way to her… even if she thinks she is. So, if you want to see her again, avoid discussing sexual topics or making jokes with her at this point in the conversation. Wait until later – much later – in the relationship to begin joking about this subject. And then wait even longer to have a serious discussion about it.
Things to Avoid in Dating Young Women #5: Never make fun of her age or how ‘young’ she is.
You already know she’s self-conscious about such things, so don’t make her feel bad or embarrassed about any of it. Don’t even ask her how old she is. Unless you’re not sure if she’s legal (in which case, you should probably move on, anyway.) Part of the reason she’s hanging out with you is that it makes her feel “older” and more “mature.” That pleases her. So, let her enjoy the sensation.
By bringing up the subject of age, particularly her age, she will be jolted back into reality – and reminded of how old she truly is. She may also be reminded unnecessarily of the age difference between the two of you. (Remember, this isn’t about reality – it’s about perception.)
(Don’t let your own disappointments and “reality slaps” ruin things for her. If she wants to be President, she can.) In fact, you should encourage her in such matters and appreciate her individuality, which she expresses through some of her choices! Show her that you are not like other adults, i.e. older people (like her parents, for example.)
And, while we’re on the subject of “age difference” and “parents,” I should add that you should avoid reminding her of her parents at all costs. (Also, don’t ask her about them unless she brings them up and/or talks about them first.)
That also means you should never act superior or better than her (even if you know you are), and you should never talk to her like a child or try to give her advice that sounds similar to something she has heard from her parents hundreds of times before.
Never speak down to her, never preach to her, and always treat her with respect.
If she does ask for your advice, remember to keep all of the preceding points in mind before saying anything to her. Furthermore, it is preferable to deliver your advice indirectly – by using a third party as a “example.”
Instead of saying, “You should do XYZ,” say, “Well, a friend of mine was in a similar situation, and s/he decided to do XYZ…which seemed to work out well for him/her.” So, even though the advice is the same in both cases, using your “friend” (third party) as an example softens the blow and avoids making her feel preachy. (It’s an ingenious communication strategy.)
Furthermore, even if you mean well, giving her direct advice may make you appear superior to her, causing her to feel immature, ignorant, clueless, or even stupid. The same is true for correcting her excessively or pointing out errors in what she says, does, and especially in her written words. That’s all a no-no! Do not attempt it.
And, if you do have to explain something to her (if she specifically asks you about it), do so in a way that makes her think “it’s no big deal”… that anyone can find out about it… and that you only know about it because you’ve had to deal with it before or have read about it somewhere. That’s all there is to it. And most emphatically not because you are superior to her.
If you do it correctly – as I suggested above – you will demonstrate to her that you are someone she can learn from and improve herself without feeling stupid or inferior. That is an excellent position for you. That is also something she cannot say about the ‘young guys’ she is accustomed to dating. It will also add an extra point to your column.
Let’s say you have had several conversations with her and throughout that time, you’ve demonstrated to her that you’re not a creep, weirdo, or serial killer. You’ve also demonstrated to her that you’re a fascinating individual.
That is, as well enough curiosity in her has been generated so that she’ll want to seek more things out. He also did all of this without exposing her, making her feel foolish, or diminishing her self-esteem. Above all, you have displayed just the right amount of interest in her in her, so as to keep her from feeling rejected or embarrassed. It’s amazing how indirect and nonchalant he is
Naturally, you’ve already set up the next “date”meeting” with her… fun, casual, and non-embarrassingishing meetings both times.
So far, so good…
Do you know where you will be going for your first lunch today? If so, you are now officially dating.
Begin by keeping all of the previous dating advice and warnings in mind
Continue to be cool, but show her that you’re someone who has the capacity for both maturity and new experiences, while also showing your capacity for adventure this has all been described previously in the earlier parts of this article)
After that, you should be ready to answer all of her questions. She’ll ask a lot of them.
In addition, if she’s asking questions, she usually means she wants to know what you know. In other words, it indicates that she’s always keeping tabs on you. She wants to know more about you and wants to get to know you better, but there’s also a good chance she wants to make an end to the relationship altogether and get the nitty-gritty details out of the way.
And finally, once again, to put it in other words, be happy that she’s asking questions. Never blame yourself, and don’t take it personally. Try to be as open and honest as possible It is of course, imperative that you put your best foot forward, but it is also advisable to be truthful.
Go along with something small, even if you know she’s not telling the truth about something important.
When a woman claims she has a boyfriend, and is only interested in having an exciting “affair” with you, say no. Simply, if you want more from her, tell her from the outset. To remain true to yourself, say good-bye. Many other women are prepared to go along with your interests and desires. It is a mistake to have an affair with the first young woman who accepts your invitation to date. While you are writing this report, you will have a multitude of young women available for you to go out on dates with
So long as you do not intend to become her lover, insist that she not date other men as well. And if you only want an affair, say that and let her find a man who can provide for her. You’re better off telling the truth when it comes to relationships. There are plenty of other women who are more suitable for you.
And let’s make a list of what she might be some of the questions she might ask about you: She may also inquire as to the reason for your lack of a spouse. If you’re really, congratulations. if she’s not interested, make it clear that it’s not something serious
She might inquire about your separation or break-up. Again, I’ve said this before, keep any negative feelings from your Ex and keep your marriage together. If you decide to lie, she’ll probably notice whether you are telling the truth through your tone or your expressions.
Furthermore, if you’re still upset over your Ex or your previous relationship, it is better to deal with the feelings — and move on. You should do so before trying to meet new women. Holding on to past resentments and grudges may be detrimental to their mental health and well-being. They need better treatment. In other words, she may also reveal that she is in a relationship. “If she does, do not covet.” But if she is about to dump him, investigate if he is a violent or jealous person. When it comes to that point, you will decide what to do next.
Without a doubt, she will ask your age, of course. My recommendation is, don’t make false claims about your age. A run-around is also known as an a cat’s-paw is also known as a cat’s paw.
She will follow that up with two more difficult questions: “When you were exactly, how old are you now?” Then, you should casually and comfortably inform her that you found it. Without even a touch of humor.
She could go on and on and on for hours about other things. Discussing everything that’s on the list could result in a long article.
This is just a sampling of the questions that have already been answered. Honesty is the best policy. And let’s see what happens. If it’s not a good fit, then it’s better to rule out the relationship now and move on. Someone else is capable and is better for you.
Next, continue the notion (on your date with her) that dating an older man is advantageous for a woman.
But, Laura had mentioned to you that she was with someone else of a more advanced age. Additionally, she was informing you that boys her age had no understanding of how to treat a girl.
And what really interested you was also, is that Laura stated that if she could select one type of “love interest’, she’d go for an older man every time.
It makes you wonder how powerful the above story is, doesn’t it?
the mood is mellow
It’s from a woman’s perspective. But you are, in fact, actually, telling her something she’s probably aware of and on some level: young men seek “one” out (sex.)
Most young women will easily get the message that’s embedded in that short tale Thus, making it even more attractive and alluring would also makes you more eye-catching to them.
You can ask Laura what she said as well, after you have finished telling her the story — to make sure it really bring home the point.
Before going on your first date with Laura, you should definitely tell her your “Laura” story. If she feels relaxed and comfortable with you, it depends on you.
This is about it! This is about it!
If you have this article, you will have the knowledge advantage over most other men trying to seduce younger women.
Knowing about the fears and uncertainties a young women have about older men gives you a significant advantage. Because fear is one of her main enemies, she had to deal with all of her issues.
But remember that it’s not enough knowledge. This is a new approach and a new skill to develop. It’s new. And the only way to learn how to make use of it is by practicing it with real women in the real world.
It requires practice, just as new skills are learned. (Note the driving example that I had given previously? It’s not enough to read the driver’s license manual.) So, go out and talk to the women. Just start talking to them, forget about trying to pick them up right now…
Learn everything you can first, then apply what you’ve learned consistently, and eventually you’ll get that date.
Let’s improve on perfection.
Don’t be surprised if you strike out in the beginning when you are still working on your new skills, because nobody learns them all at once.
The only way to deal with this is to learn from and continue with your mistakes. Continue to interact with young women and refine your skills in this report. This is a new method for women to behave. And with every attempt, just as with any other ability, you will improve. You would be better off practicing immediately. 🙂
Oh, by the way you will have to blow her mind also in the bedroom if you want to keep a young woman around. See my other below reports on seduction and ‘seduction skills’ to become a genuine expert in all these areas. Leave nothing to chance! Do not leave anything to chance!
Here’s to finding that perfect young woman! Sincerely,
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