One of the biggest barriers we have that goes against our own happiness and our own sense of self. It’s the fear of being judged by others, and it’s a very complex fear that may have come from events in the past, from your parents, teachers, other children or someone else.

It’s the kind of fear that keep you from your power, the fear of being judged negatively by others.

I believe that are thing we can do that help ourselves if you find that it’s something you are struggling with or that comes into you thought patterns, into your life and hold you back.

We obviously are hard wired to create relationships, connections and friendships with other people and in doing that we tend to feel that we do have something in common with that person.

There is a pattern when people have this fear, actually they become judgmental themselves, not because their mean or negative, its because they have this circle of comparison. A they got this negative pattern, it keeps them in a low vibration and they put themselves above or below someone else. If they encounter somebody with lower self-esteem this will affect them, naturally  this person will put himself in a lower position.

 

This kind of dialog with yourself will never serve your happiness. The way you perceive yourself and the things you tell yourself are powerful. However, this habit brings negative effect as it puts you in the position where you always tend to compare yourself with others and feel bad about who you are and what you have.

Stop! People who practice this bad habit are worst judges for themselves. They will judge themselves more harshly than they would judge anybody else. If they make a mistake they wont forgive themselves quickly and felt the need of punishment as if they are criminals. But, if somebody else would commit that same mistake they can let it pass much quicker.

If you recognise these behaviours you could challenge yourself to notice other people as you normally would but pick out something really great about them, whether its about something they wear, the way they fix their hair, the color of their back, and so much more. Focus on the beauty of your sorrounding. As you continue to look for positive, then expect a ripple effect on yourself. Imagine yourself holding up a mirror as you recognize your own beauty by saying wonderful observations on your face that you’ve never done before. Being less judgmental about yourself will bring inner happiness.

All this takes practice , be easy on yourself, do as much as you can today and try it as much as you can , overtime it will fill you heart with love and happiness and compassion. And therefore the crippling fear of being judged by somebody else is not going to affect you as much as before  because you already accepted how you are.

Remember that you’re perfect, you’re exactly the person you meant to be in this very moment and we’re all growing, we’re all changing, congratulate you for being you today.

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